Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Keith Urban's Adventure in Feminism

When you hear somebody say somebody hits like a girl 
How does that hit you 
Is that such a bad thing 
When you hear a song that they play sayin’ you run the world
 Do you believe it 
Will you live to see it?
Sister, shoulder, daughter, lover 
Healer, broken halo, Mother 
Nature, fire, suit of armor, sole survivor, holy water 
Secret keeper, fortune teller 
Virgin Mary, Scarlet letter 
Technicolor, river wild 
Baby, girl, woman, child 
When somebody laughs and implies that she asked for it
 Just cause she was wearing a skirt 
Oh is that how that works 
When somebody talks about how it was Adam first 
Does that make you second best 
Or did He save the best for last.
She's the heart of life 
She's the dreamer's dream 
She's the hands of time 
She's the queen of kings.

I've read that he is being accused of "mansplaining" feminism, but it goes way beyond that.  The first huge, glaring error is his use of "female" (the title) as a noun referring to a woman.  I have to ask, female what?  Human?  Because we have a word for that, and it's "Woman."  

Don't get me started on the little breathy sexy feminine sighs in the background every time he sings the title...I prefer to hear women roar, not sigh...

The first two lines are clumsy, with repeats of "somebody" and "hit."  The country feminist song is apparently not worthy of the songwriters' best efforts (it took three of them:  Shane McAnally; Ross Copperman; Josh Osborne).  

Every phrase describing what "females" are, qualifies them.  What about women who are NOT sisters, daughters, shoulders, lovers, etc., etc.? why can't he give us a little respect for just being ourselves...jammie-wearing, tired of working, chips and salsa snacking women?

I understand that he is trying to sell it to people who still tell women "Don't worry your pretty little head about that, little lady," but with this song, he's trying to appeal to feminists as well.

Sorry, Keith.  No cookie for you.

Tuesday, January 02, 2018

Abaroa Released!

Ladies, look out for this guy!

OK, now I'm REALLY angry!  This article is the first I had heard of the case since he took an Alford plea in 2014.  He was SUPPOSED to serve 95 to 123 months.  That's approximately eight to ten years, for y'all who don't know their 12 times table.

Instead, he's out in less than FOUR years! 

This is the guy who killed his pregnant wife in 2005.  It took them five years to arrest him, and then only because he tried to marry someone else, and SHE went to the cops when he said some suspicious things to her.

Read up on it here, if you can stomach it!

I don't know why North Carolina seems to go so easily on people who murder their wives, but this is not the first case where they have had trouble getting a conviction, or a decent sentence.

Fuck these guys and fuck the system that lets them out early!

Monday, January 01, 2018

The New Year Starts on a Monday.

Last year began on Sunday and that didn't work so well.  Is there some sort of reverse thing going on here?  After all, "The child that's born on the sabbath day is fair and bright and good and gay."  Didn't see a lot of those qualities this past year.  We had drab and dull and bad and sad.  I've always thought that "Monday's child is fair of face" is a bit superficial, but hey.  It is what it is.

The usual complement of icons from my misspent youth shuffled off this mortal is a fairly comprehensive list.  From Chuck Berry to Sue Grafton, we are down several score of friendly voices, at a time when every little bit of positivity counts.  There were a few of whom I say, "Good Riddance," such as Charles Manson and that bishop who shuffled priests accused of child molestation around from parish to parish on the grounds that they had "repented."  I swear, I wish I believed in Hell as an actual thing.

I had fun costuming several shows, one of which, For the Love of Mahalia, got me a Broadway World nomination for costuming, which is an honour in itself.  Many thanks to Austin Theatre Project and RKJB Entertainment, for letting me play.

Things were pretty grim on the political front, but we had a few hints towards the end that make me hope for a change this year.  Keep fingers crossed, please, and knock wood, or whatever you do.  RESIST!

So, here's to keeping on keeping on.

All the best to everyone in this Year of Change!

Oh, and Surfy?  Could you please contact me via the email link in my profile, or leave a comment saying how I can contact you?  That would be awesome!

Sunday, December 03, 2017

An Egregious Example of Rape Culture in America

We're all familiar with the name Brock Turner, right?  The POS who was arrested, tried and convicted of raping an unconscious woman?  The one that resulted in a six month sentence (because prison would damage such a sensitive snowflake with such a promising future), of which he ultimately served only three months.

Well, Brock (Piece of Shit) Turner is back in the news, appealing his conviction on the grounds that the prosecution lied about the location of the assault (behind a dumpster).  They claim the attack took place out in the open, and he wasn't trying to conceal his actions behind a dumpster.

He wasn't trying to conceal his actions, because he was doing nothing wrong.  Apparently, in his world, it's perfectly OK to rape an unconscious person...after all, she didn't say no, so it's all good, right?  I mean, she fell down right there, and didn't cross her legs while falling, so she wanted it, right?

(Where's my barf icon?)

According to CNN,
 "What we are saying is that what happened is not a crime," John Tompkins, Turner's legal adviser, told KNTV. "It happened, but it was not anywhere close to a crime."
So, they maintain that the unconscious woman had consensual sex with Brock (POS) Turner just anywhere on the ground.  IMO, they should stop after "It happened," because nothing else is relevant.

I guess Mummy and Daddy don't want their Golden Boy® to have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.

The judge who sentenced him to six months is currently fighting the consequences of such a blatant disregard for justice.

Sunday, November 26, 2017

The Humble Slip

When I was young, women and girls wore slips under their dresses and skirts.  Here is a fine example.  The half-slip was also popular and quite acceptable.

They were never supposed to show, but we all knew they were there.  In fact, we had a code...if we saw a girl at school whose slip was showing below the hem of her dress, we would tell her, "It's snowing down south."  She would immediately head for the girls' bathroom and adjust the garment so it was out of sight.

We were trained from an early age that this extra layer was necessary.
Even our dolls had them. 

They served as modesty protectors, in case one were to find oneself backlit, like Diana Spencer, in this photo that was taken before she became a Princess:
They also prevent this:  one's skirt getting caught between one's legs while walking.
I wear one, to this day.  I live in a hot climate, where the slip was probably abandoned quite early, but I have always maintained that, if something is going to get stuck to my butt when I stand up after sitting while sweaty, it is not going to be my skirt, like this unfortunate lady:
People I costume sometimes think I'm really odd, because I insist on slips, if the play is set in a time period when most women wore them, and if their character is one of those women.  The actresses think that, because the audience can't see the slip, it doesn't matter.  I beg to differ.  without the slip, the skirt will cling where it shouldn't, ride up where it shouldn't and just generally not hang correctly.

I saw a really good play yesterday, and I was asked what I thought of the costumes.  The worst thing I noticed was that the lead actress was not wearing a slip, and the play was set in the 1940s.  Considering some of the costuming I've seen on stage, that's pretty minor, but still. 

It's attention to details that separates the sheep from the goats, IMO.

Sunday, November 19, 2017

Ten Years Older Than God

Damn, I'm old...

Sometimes I feel even older, because my parents were old enough to be my grandparents, and their stories go back farther than most.

These days, when people talk about The Good Old Days, they are usually referring to the mid 20th Century.  My parents were born in the first decade of the 20th Century.  Both remembered the First World War, were adults during the Great Depression and just when they thought things had settled down, along came WWII, and the shit hit the fan all over again.  Dad enlisted in the RAF (though in peace time, he would have been too old).

They came from very different backgrounds.  Dad's family were middle class merchants, having a wines and spirits importing business, complete with what Hyacinth Bucket referred to as "a Royal Warrant," which was A Thing in Edwardian Britain.  During the Depression, the company went bust, but before that, they were classy enough that my grandfather got to marry the daughter of County society.  My Granny and her two sisters were known as "the Three Belles of Brecon."  Mom, on the other hand, was raised in America, born to a family that was never well-off.  Her mother died when she was 9, and she and her three siblings were shunted around from grandparents to aunts, because their father was a timberman, and spent a lot of his time in logging camps.

A story my Granny used to tell involved herself as a child, attending a party in an elegant house.  Granny loved raisins and currants, and had picked them all out of her cake to enjoy after the cake-y part.  The butler, thinking she was finished with her dessert, whisked away her plate, dried fruit and all.  She used it as a lesson...take what life brings and enjoy it, because if you save the best for last it might not be there when you are.  I always thought, "Who has a butler serving a kids' party?"  This is the same Granny who, when Dad took Mom home to England, made excuses for her by saying, "My daughter-in-law is an American, you know..." as if that covered a multitude of social indiscretions.

Mom told stories of being six and enduring cold baths, because it was supposed to toughen children up to force them to undergo such physical shocks...and being sewn into her wool "union suit" in October and having to wear it till May, no matter the weather.  A warm autumn or spring was never taken into account.  In spite of cold baths the rest of the year, nobody bathed at all (except for sponge baths) over the winter.  She started life in upstate New York and then lived in Ottawa, Ontario until her majority.

Neither had graduated from high school--Dad's education was cut short due to lack of funds, and the alternative presented to him by his father (the army) was not something that interested him.  He Ran Away to Canada, and did not return to England until after his father died.  Mom failed math, so couldn't graduate in Canada, foiling Aunt Ethel's plan for her to teach.  She went into nursing instead (the requirements were apparently much less strict in the mid 1920s than they are today), and did that until she married my dad.  Like most careers for women in those days, nursing was for single women only.  Dad had got a job in Vancouver, working for his cousin's firm, Courtauld's, where he stayed through several location transfers (Vancouver, BC to Cornwall, Ont, to Coventry, England) until 1957.

So the stories I grew up hearing span an extra generation.  From a time when not having to share a bed was a luxury for a child, let alone having one's own room.  From a time when one had a family crest engraved on one's flatware.  One's sterling flatware, mind you; not (shudder) plate.

It's no wonder I'm a little weird...

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

The Ultimate Time Suck

I used to write, frequently.  Before Facebook, I wrote almost every day, either here or on other blogs, and I spent time reading blogs.  Since, I've been hearing people say that blogs are dead.

I am on Twitter, but rarely use it, except to troll asshole politicians (but that's another entry).  Aidan set me up an Instagram, but I don't even know what that's for.  I am on LinkedIn and Pinterest, but don't use either.  I had MySpace, back in the day, but all the twinkly GIFs wore me out.

But Facebook I took to like a duck to water.  It's the first thing I do in the morning, and the last thing at night.

I'm not into posting pictures of my dinner, or myself (all that much), but sharing memes and news articles and discussing political (and other) issues with friends and strangers is all sorts of fun.

It took me a while to figure out how to find out who all those people are who "follow" me (there are over 200 of them), without being friends, and when I did, I was surprised.  I've blocked quite a few...I'm sorry, but I don't speak any Asian languages; or Hebrew, Russian, Arabic or Elvish, so if your name is not listed in an alphabet I can read, I'm blocking you.  Likewise if your name sounds Kling-on.  I am assuming a goodly (yuge?) number of these are bots of one sort or another.  Who knows...I may be on Trump's "naughty list" by now.

I don't accept friend requests unless we have friends in common, or I recognize the name from a discussion thread somewhere...or if it's someone I actually know.

I've had to block a few real life friends who, while very nice in person, are flaming Tea Party Patriots on line.  I don't mind disagreement, but telling me to go back where I came from, or that my gay friends or immigrant friends deserve "whatever they get," will get you unfriended and blocked in a heartbeat.  The only person allowed to launch ad hom attacks on my wall is my daughter Chandra, whose most frequent comment is, "You're a fucking idiot."  I find that OK, as she has done that in real life ever since she was a kid.

Still, the Book of Face has become something of an obsession and I think I need a new hobby.